Boundaries are the limits we set for ourselves. We usually talk about boundaries with others, but they matter just as much with ourselves.
Without boundaries, anxiety can affect every aspect of our lives, making it difficult to focus on anything else when worries arise. 1[■] When worries come up outside that time, you can reinforce this boundary by reminding yourself of the time you’ve put aside to deal with them.
2[■] Breaking it can be equally difficult. People tend to talk to themselves far more harshly than they would to anyone else. Setting boundaries around-self-talk can start with noticing when you say something unkind to yourself and replacing it with something more reasonable.
Self-care means a million things to a million people. 3[■] It involves recognizing and meeting our needs in a range of areas. Self-care can take many forms, including time alone, connection with others, physical care, and emotional expression. It also includes practical tasks, such as regular dental checkups. 4[■]
Clarifying our values and living by them is a key part of setting boundaries with ourselves. The extent to which our actions reflect our values is a measure of self-respect. Consider what truly matters to you. 5[■] When something crosses your moral compass, or would otherwise compromise your self-respect, notice that and take action. Making and keeping commitments to yourself is another form of self-care.